Releasing Judgement

Recently in my spiritual awakening process I moved through a cycle of deep healing. I experienced being judged, harshly and for a period of months. For a time it was painful, but I grew through it and released it. Then a breakthrough led to forgiveness and taught me even more.

A Recent Experience. 

I knew I was being judged. The harsh words and energies were unmistakable. As a sensitive person, I felt it all. At first it hurt, and at night I cried silently. I felt the suffering. When my tears dried I began to grow.

I knew that I was taking it personally and I needed to end the suffering. I reminded myself that their judgement of me is between them and who they pray to. How they felt about me wasn’t about me. Their judgement of me was their burden to carry. As was mine. 

I brought awareness to my judgement of them that crept up into my ego mind. I ended my judgement of them. With intention, I stopped the thought process. It was a reaction, but not one I wanted to continue.

I stopped taking their judgement of me personally and began to release the energy that I had taken on. In quiet moments of meditation, I released the energy of judgement that was clinging to me.

When the pain and suffering entered my awareness again, I reminded myself that it wasn’t personal. It was between them and who they prayed to. It was theirs to carry. And again, I released the energy.

The awareness, healing process, and releasing was freeing. The pain and tears subsided. My energy had softened. I no longer needed reminding that their judgement wasn’t about me and it was theirs to carry and reconcile. I began to move through my day to day life more freely. 

I had healed. They still judged, but I was no longer carrying the emotional weight of their judgement. We each had our own path. I moved forward on mine and let them have the experience they needed to have. 

Then one day there was a breakthrough. They shed many tears as they apologized for their judgement of me. I shared how I grew through it. We hugged and let it go.

Their judgement of me came up again in another conversation days later. With deeper clarity they explained why they were judging me so harshly. They said it was justification for the rage they felt within. They weren’t seeking to do harm. Then they told me of their own growth.

I knew then what I had been telling myself was true, it had nothing to do with me. It wasn’t personal. It wasn’t my burden to carry. 

We both healed and grew through the experience. Ever since the breakthrough, our connection has strengthened. We each had our own experience. Each of us grew. 

Processing Judgement.

Judgement happens, we are human, we have egos and minds. I also know that judgement is created within us and there are ways for us to overcome it.

We can bring awareness to it when it happens to us. We can see it for what it is, someone else’s to carry. It isn’t personal but reflective of the person who is judging. We can let them experience it and know that it is between them and who they pray to.

We can also bring awareness to judgement within us. The judgment we place on others and what that judgement is saying about us. We can remind ourselves that judgement of others is for us to carry. It isn’t about the one we judge, it is about our own experience, ego, thoughts, and wounds. It is for us to reconcile with whom we pray to.

And then, we must resolve it, release it. Let it go. Carrying judgement, either by someone else or ourselves, disrupts our inner peace. Carrying judgement may be part of our path, but it isn’t our purpose.

How to Release Judgement. 

There are prayers, affirmations, and practices that can help us release judgement. Whether it’s judgement from others that we are perceiving, or judgment we are placing on others, we must resolve it. Release it. Let it go. 

This is where we can employ our spiritual practices. Releasing the energy of judgment that clings to us or is impacting our well being are helpful. Prayers and affirmations to see, hear, and respect all beings. Whatever resonates with us and how we pray can be used to remove judgement or bring a more conscious intention to our relationships.

Here are some examples:

We are grateful to release all energies that are not ours or do not align with us. 

We are grateful to surrender and release the illusion of separation and duality. 

We are grateful to see, hear, respect, appreciate, and love all beings for their gifts and talents, and for their Divine love and light. 

We seek to release the judgement of all beings. 

For clarity - the “we” I say in my prayers and affirmations are body, mind, heart, and soul.

The Elephant in the Room.

In these sociopolitical times we need to address the elephant in the room. Judgement of those who seek to do us harm. Those who seek to destroy conscious and democratic lives and ideals. We must bring awareness to them and judge them and their destruction of democratic values.

That said, we must judge the movement but less so the individuals. We must judge the leaders for their hate and desire to destroy. But those who believe the lies and propaganda they consume must be judged differently.

We are human. We will judge. But we must do so consciously and with discernment. When we judge, it must be to protect humanity. It must never be to cause harm. 

I don’t know if there is a cure for judgement. It comes so easily to us humans. But maybe if we bring awareness to it, we can use it for the common good.

The answer isn’t an easy one, but neither are humans.

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Be well, beautiful soul and human. 

Nikki