It’s the end of the year and 2021 is a few days away. Typically,
at this time people are stating their resolutions and setting their goals for
the new year. And I have to say, it doesn’t serve me. I think resolutions suck
and goals are great for situations but not for personal growth. I offer another
option, a theme.
Resolutions are always broken or forgotten.
They don’t work because they are restrictive and don’t allow
for changes in mindset or for new understandings. They are made to be broken. When
they’re broken, we feel bad, like we failed. It’s like setting ourselves up for
failure. Not helpful!
Goals are great for situations but not for everything.
Similar to resolutions, goals are restrictive. They don’t allow
for changes in circumstance or situation. When goals are clearly defined, as
they should be, we can fail on any number of things, the timing, the volume,
the exactness. Goals are important for life situations and business, but there are
other options for a new year.
Themes are my favorite way to enter a new year!
Themes on the other hand are open for adjustments in circumstance
and situation. A theme is like an affirmation or a mantra. Having a theme for
the year means you can apply it in any manor of ways. There is flexibility in
application and expression. You also can’t ‘fail’ a theme. You simply apply it
as you go through the year, no matter what comes up.
I’ve had themes for a few years now and love the freedom they
give me. In 2020, my theme was “out of my head and into my heart”. I’ve spent
most of my life living in my head (I have Gemini ascending in my natal chart)
and wanted to encourage empathy and compassion in my approach to my life,
career and well…everything.
When I set my theme for 2020, I had no idea what the year
And my theme served me better than I could have imagined. As
2020 unfolded, I approached each situation with empathy and compassion.
Sometimes it would be applied to myself and sometimes to others. Either way my
theme reminded me to stop thinking and to start feeling.
With my theme in mind, I felt my way through 2020. And as you
know, there was a lot to feel in 2020. When I was met with a challenge, I practiced
self-compassion. When I was confronted with other’s challenges, I practiced
empathy. A theme is a practice for the year.
With my 2020 theme, my practice, I learned to be a better
me. I learned to feel and process emotions. I learned to approach my interactions
with people with empathy and compassion. I learned that I could express and
feel every emotion and allow them to flow through and out of me. My theme
served me well. Had I another them for 2020, I’m not sure how I would have emerged
from this challenging year.
The new year is starting soon, hello 2021.
I am still looking for my theme for 2021. I’m not sure what
it is yet, but I know that it will serve me well. It will be growth oriented
and flexible, but I don’t have it yet. I’m feeling my way through that with
empathy and compassion too.